Oh no I’m turning into Bree!

Sim simma
I have a good friend that recently claimed that spontaneity must be the most overrated thing ever. Like most of the times it just leads to confusion and stress. I totally agree but at the moment I find myself feeling too strict in the other direction. I feel like an uptight old lady. Planning by all means but the everyday rat race makes me nuts. I do see the beauty of the normal life but I don’t always like myself in it – or what it turns me into when I’m not careful enough. Then I’m not as curious that I used to be or I’m thinking much more of tomorrow than enjoying the everyday party. It’s like my mind becomes an grumpy old man but my body is still young. I blame the kids. Not per se my kids but more just having them. When the rat race is in full bloom we tend to do everything so it will run as smooth as possible. We are directing every part of life. That’s natural but I just need to step out of it for a bit. I just want to be really egoistic for a while. I just want to scream – WHAT ABOUT ME?!

Last time I felt like this I booked a trip to New York (see a pattern here?)
My father drove me to the airport and I was shaking because I was so nervous to leave. It was the first time I left the family for a long period and all alone since getting a family. Della was about a year and a half. I felt that I didn’t know who I was anymore. I was a mum. Period. Well maybe a wife as well.
At the airport I locked myself in the ladies room, cried and called Erik – totally convinced that I would never see them again and I was 1 mm from canceling the whole thing. My father who gets nervous when I have a cold didn’t know what to do. But I’m too Famcho (as I call the female version of macho) not to go so I threw up at the passport checkpoint in my fathers dog bag – then I slept all the way to New York and another 16 hours when I got there. After that I had one of the best weeks in my life. So I guess having a bit of Who am I crisis always lead to something good.
xxx Isabelle

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Amaliereply
October 24, 2012 at 05:10 PM

What an amazing story. If only everyone would be so open about motherhood… KUDO$!!!

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adminreply
October 25, 2012 at 02:10 PM
– In reply to: Amalie

Thanks Amalie!! – it’s great being a mum but it it’s also damn hard!! – Isabelle

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Mariereply
October 24, 2012 at 10:10 PM

I have a tradition (sinde two years now) to go to my father in the south of france, just for a couple of days and be a ‘child’ again, taking my time and just enjoy my time alone, with nobody callin’ : MAMA!!!!
Just charge my batteries ;-)

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adminreply
October 25, 2012 at 02:10 PM
– In reply to: Marie

It sounds as a great tradition! Good idea! I should start scheduling it a bit more.

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Matt Allisonreply
October 24, 2012 at 10:10 PM

Isabelle, I know I’m not a Mama, but as creative, free spirited Dad and primary caregiver, I resonate completely. In fact just today I was listening to the radio and heard an ad running a special to New York, and found myself dreaming about getting away from it all! Sadly I couldn’t, but I just took two hours out to watch ‘Moonrise Kingdom’, alone, no kids, no commitments, pure escapism, if only for that short time.

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Isabelle McAllisterreply
October 25, 2012 at 02:10 PM
– In reply to: Matt Allison

Oh Matt – it’s not a mum thing it’s a parent thing! Sorry if I put it that way and I’m hearing you! And like you said the pure escapism time is so much needed! Isabelle

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Matt Allisonreply
October 29, 2012 at 12:10 AM
– In reply to: Isabelle McAllister

Oh, not at all! I didn’t feel as if you were making it a Mum thing, just that I relate being with the kids day in and day out as their primary caregiver, but yes, it’s very much a parent thing!

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Melaniereply
October 24, 2012 at 10:10 PM

Hi there!
Thank you for visiting my blog & name it between your loved blogs!! Wow, that’s so nice of you!! I’m happy you like it, you have a really cool blog too! Nice inspiration & style!! And I really like your story and how you work together!

Thanks & kind regards from Amsterdam,
Melanie
http://www.melkstore.com

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Isabelle McAllisterreply
October 25, 2012 at 02:10 PM
– In reply to: Melanie

Well Malanie, it’s a great blog and store so hurray for you!

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