Make the compliments count. (If someone said that my photography sucked. I believed them)

jennyfromtheblog

Above my computer screen: A 4-eyed cat. A robot that Frank made. My sister and I posing for a photographer. And compliments. Yes you heard me right. Compliments.

You know the feeling: one mean-spirited remark weighs more then 100 compliments? I know this to be true because I used to feel that way.
I used to be really dependent on other peoples approval. The not so nice comments used to linger on me forever while the nice ones bounced off me like they were nothing.

If someone said that my photography sucked. I believed them.
If someone said that my photography was nice I told myself “What do they know?”. “They’re not even into photography”. “They have to say that, their’re my parents” or “They’re just being nice”.

Getting older has many advantages. Seeing you´re own bullshit is one of them. Today I don´t let my brain or heart overlook the compliments. On the contrary- I suck them up with a pink straw, print them out and even use them in my crafting. Like above: one comment has been integrated in the book “Barbie’s adventure in the Caribbean” and the other one is encouring (not only me but also) Ursula in the scen when she´s planning world domination.

With my age I’ve also learnt that the most important opinion regarding my work is my own. If I don’t like it- it’s probably crap. If I like it- I´m on the right track.

However giving the nice compliments more room then the bad ones is a pretty good routine.

 

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Malin
May 11, 2016 at 02:05 PM

Hej Jenny,
Nu ska du få en komplimang – och ett litet önskemål. :-)

Jag gillar verkligen din blogg. Lätta att känna igen sig i. Skönt med en bloggare som inte utstrålar perfektion (OBS! Det är en komplimang) utan som verkar ha en skön och avspänd till liv, hem och familj. En av få i den svenska bloggosfären som inte bidrar till prestationshets. Inspirerande.

Nu till önskemålet. Dina fina texter som jag hjärtans gärna vill läsa är tyvärr inte så läsbara. Liten text och tveksamt typsnitt. Jag må vara 40+ men mina korpgluggar håller fortfarande måttet. På din blogg märker jag dock att jag har svårt att läsa.

Håller med om din text. Många fördelar med att bli äldre.

Malin

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admin
May 11, 2016 at 02:05 PM
– In reply to: Malin

Hej Malin!

Tack!

Där ser man… har nog haft samma alltid.
Ska genast kolla upp detta

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admin
May 11, 2016 at 04:05 PM
– In reply to: Malin

Hej igen!

Nu har jag beställt en ny font som dyker upp snart.
Tack för att du påpekade det.

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Marie
May 11, 2016 at 04:05 PM

Hi Jenny, just wanna let you know that you being you is just the way we like
And it’s amazing how that little Jenny from the picture looks still the same!

Sweet kiss from Marie

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admin
May 11, 2016 at 04:05 PM
– In reply to: Marie

Oh, Marie, you sweet little thing you.