Time for a second thought & a second opinion

When someone is making a comment, giving critique or just says something that get to you it’s so bloody easy to just run with the other persons idea. But is this really a good way of doing stuff? For example I find myself in many situation daily when I hear stuff and just make it a truth. Some things doesn’t really make any difference. I mean if my daughter tells me a hummingbird can do 1000 wing flaps per second and it’s only 100 it’s still amazing it doesn’t really affect my life in a bigger way. But a lot of other facts are.

First of all we can talk about a general skepticism about things you read and hear which is good to just have in the back of your head.  I don’t mean not to believe in people but just to kind of aware that everyone has their kind of truth.

I am a very believing person on the verge of naive sometimes. My world is filled with unicorns, cool people, some less cool and then real villains that make war and such. Pretty black and white instead of 50 shades of pink… I think I have had trouble in the past seeing that we all, including myself have our own agendas somehow.
But on a larger scale I also see how the word is spinning so fast our own truths kind of get pretty messed up.

I know I have been forced to to things differently on TV show I was in because we got one, I mean ONE phone call complaining about some things we where doing. That the other over 1,1 million viewers didn’t say anything didn’t really matter. There was just only this – We have got complaint – now we need to change. Another thing I was working on a month ago we had a comment about that the image felt hard. So we worked our ass off making it softer. But who was this person saying it needed to be softer? Was it God? The boss? Was it a whole group or just one of many who had been asked – What do you feel about this image? No one knew but we all worked after this one comment.

Sometimes we are put in a group with a meaning of – now we need to express what we think about this issue. Mostly we just pour our harts out. Yes it’s an environment to do it. But it can be just a thought someone had, not really a really thought trough idea – and then does this thought need to be right?

I’m just saying give some stuff some more perspective before just running away with a bad comment or something that get you a bit off balance… Since we all lead such hectic lives – this time for thought seldom appear but how we need them more than ever!

xx
Isabelle

This is a great app for giving you these extra minutes freedom of thoughts in you head. At least for me.

Life lesson by Rebecka- like a boss as always. In Swedish but easy to google translate.

 

Ps, was it really a hummingbird my daughter was talking about or maybe a dragonfly?

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15 Responses to Time for a second thought & a second opinion

  1. marie October 17, 2013 at 9:14 pm #

    Someone once said: It takes 30 sec to get an optimist down.
    Keep doing what you do, because I think everything you do is so pure and you….
    This blog gives me a smile on my face everytime…
    And as me and my husband always tell our children: Funky as you wanna be!!
    Or as Bob Marley sang: “Don’t care what the world says….”

    Marie

    • Isabelle McAllister October 18, 2013 at 5:46 pm #

      Thanks Marie!

      Well it’s not only myself I’m concerned about. More maybe society in general. But I love your input!

      • marie October 18, 2013 at 9:03 pm #

        We absolutly need to change our way of thinking!
        We need more people like “dosfamily’ who are living live with passion…
        I wish you a very nice weekend!

  2. Rozenn October 17, 2013 at 9:30 pm #

    Keep yours unicorns, you and your work are great!!

    • Isabelle McAllister October 18, 2013 at 5:45 pm #

      Thanks Rozeen!

  3. Carmen October 17, 2013 at 10:24 pm #

    Hi Isabelle.

    I really like and enjoy this kind of posts, they make me think.

    • Isabelle McAllister October 18, 2013 at 5:44 pm #

      thanks carmen – I appriciate you saying it!

  4. Ella Moe October 18, 2013 at 2:45 pm #

    Haha, ibland känns det som att det man gör utgå från hur många likes man kan få, vad det än är. Och så funkar det ju inte. Riktigt.

    Jag har tänkt mycket tillbaka på mina sena tonårsår, då jag var ganska clueless och alltså gjorde mer vad jag än ville. Självklart speglade jag mig även då i andra, men mina val var på vissa sätt mer radikala och mer sanna mot mig själv.

    Ibland när jag åker tunnelbana försöker jag sitta som då, utan mobilen i handen och bara stirra, titta eller sova, som man gjorde då, eftersom det inte fanns mobiler. Men det är nästan omöjligt. Jag vet inte om det är bättre eller sämre, men den konstanta tillgängligheten splittrar en, det är jag säker på. Med så många intryck och lättheten att slänga iväg en snabb kommentar, är det svårare tycker jag att se träd och inte skog. Det blir lätt vingklippt.

    • Isabelle McAllister October 18, 2013 at 5:47 pm #

      Ja Ella, helt sjukt. Jag försker också men det är så svårt. Tänker så mycket på ridtjejerna jag ser i Dalarna som alla struttar runt på hästarna men samtidigt som de rider så kollar de i telefonen. Vi kansek kommer bli som de tjocka uppe på Wall-E planeten till slut?

      • Ella October 20, 2013 at 4:09 pm #

        Haha, hu!

  5. enannanhelena October 18, 2013 at 8:02 pm #

    Intressant reflektion Isabelle. Själv är jag ju uppvuxen utan allt det här uppkopplade och fortfarande idag har jag “bara dator och vanlig mobil”. Ingen smartphone, inga appar. (Än). Men jag ser människor överallt, mest riktigt unga, men även en del i min ålder som aldrig verkar titta upp. Inte ens när de går över gatan?!!

    Webben är EN värld, som jag gillar och trivs i. Men det finns en IRL-värld också som är trevlig att vistas i ibland…

    Det där med att ta alla “fakta” och alla olika åsikter och kommentarer med en nypa salt blir aldrig en gammal sanning. Men jag håller med om att det är svårt att sortera alla intryck ibland. Och att inte bli sårad och ta åt sig.

    Det bästa är väl att alltid göra sin grej – vad den grejen än är för något. Och försöka vara nöjd med det, även när man “tvingas” jämföra sig med andra.

    Lättare sagt än gjort såklart. Men det här inlägget tycker jag är ett bra exempel på att göra sin grej. Och, ändå, låta andra dela det.

    /helena

  6. hugoandmathilda October 23, 2013 at 3:15 pm #

    and even if you knew the opinion of the 1.1 million viewers how would you change? by the majority of views? thanks for helping me ask the question which are anyway for me to answer. this is something I’ve been thinking a lot lately.

    • Isabelle McAllister October 23, 2013 at 4:58 pm #

      Well I guess that is the question mathilda(?) In that case it wasn’t my decision to change it came from above, bosses at the network. I just think the deal is to take time and simply raise the question. What are they saying? Is this one person right or the other 1,1 million right? And why is that so. I mean in one way changing for one person is also beautiful but you have to know why you do it and be sure. Not be driven by fear. Fear of being wrong or driven by a sort of nervousness. In Swedish we have some saying – landa i frågan – translated it’s like take time to understand the question. I think thats the point. To hear, feel get some input. Then take the time, do the research and make your own opinion at the end – then react.
      Nowadays there is more of oh everyone says so – it must be like it.
      or what do you think?

  7. Robyn November 7, 2013 at 10:05 am #

    So wonderfully wonderfully true, Isabelle ! Thanks for just putting so many little things – and big things, into perspective for me. In the future, and especially in moments of doubt I will remember your post and take a moment to think of what really matters. I love your’s and Jennys blog, its so free and colourful and wonderful, and full of everything the world should be, thanks ! Robyn

    • Isabelle McAllister November 7, 2013 at 3:04 pm #

      Thanks Robyn. Glad to hear this- makes our day! xxx isabelle

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