Little miss teen

The other day during breakfast I found my 5 year old filling in the pattern on the table cloth with an ink pen. I asked what she was doing and she went totally wild on me. Then she hid under her brothers bed and had a tantrum. After a while she climbed up in her bunk bed and calmed down.
An hour later when we where dressing to go to school and the kids where in the elevator. I remembered that Della needed her water bottle for their excursion that day so I ran inside to get it from up in her bed.

Then I found that she had drawn horses, flowers and ballet girls on the wall – up in the bunk bed.
I realized that after her tantrum earlier on – she had climbed up in her bed and continued to draw while I was mad at her for drawing at the table cloth. (Oh the nerve…). When I confronted her about it she said.
– I am so sorry mum. I will never draw on my sheets again!
That I had missed.

I later made her rub the ink of the wall even though I thought it looked quite cool and beautiful.
But damn it is so hard sometimes.
Knowing how to act, react and simply just be the best parent possible.

 

4 Comments

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Marie
May 6, 2012 at 23:22

Indeed, so very very hard sometimes…but it sounds like you did an excellent parental job!
Isabelle: I try and try again.

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Lisa
May 7, 2012 at 00:14

Men du, du är ju känd för att ta kreativiteten in i barnens rum. Tror du inte lite att hon kan ha svårt att förstå skillnaden på att du gör schabloner eller grafitti hos någon på tv, och att hon målar djur i sitt eget rum?

Vår match i hemmet blev oavgjort. Vi bestämde att hon får inte rita på några väggar och möbler i hemmet förutom de som är hennes. I hennes rum är hon den kreativa och där får hon rita. Förvånansvärt nog blev hennes ritande på väggar och sängar då mer genomtänkt och mindre tecken på uttråkning.

Isabelle: Nja hon vet vad som är ok och inte. Hon ville bara testa gränser. Big time. Jag tycker faktiskt det är ganska kul fast det gör mig galen samtidigt.

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Chavah
May 7, 2012 at 06:44

I’ve had to deal with the exact same thing and yes, it’s definitely hard to know how to react. On one hand I get it – the urge to be creative has no boundaries, on the other hand – that’s my stuff! Why would you draw all over it when it costs me money?! hehe. Good luck :)
Isabelle: shes just testing boundaries I suppose – she has to try it on someone – better be me right?

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Kristina
May 7, 2012 at 12:35

I absolutly know this situation and how one feels in the very thick of things…
I did a parents-training recently. It was called “Strong parents – strong kids”.

And, what should I say?
Did it help for these situations???
No!

But it was interesting as well…

Try this:
Catch a breath.
Ask yourself: “What happend?”
Answer yourself: “Shit happend.”
Catch a breath again and continue reacting.
:-)

Kristina

Isabelle: I love the did it work sentence! thanks for support!